winning = ??

This Sunday, my daughter was doing her reading homework with her dad, while I was making dinner for them. They were all 3 letter words and one such word was win.

Nans : w.i.n ... win. Acha, what does win mean?
Acha : {thinking}
Nans : Oh! yes ... it means coming first!

I have been troubled since I heard this definition. I mean, is that all win means? Coming first? What about the rest of the junta who did not come first, yet won? Isn't winning to be defined by oneself?

I am reminded of my friend's words .... "I don't want to win any race, I just want to finish it gracefully."