Voice it out!

She : It is always good to voice things out ... struggles/victories/anything.. Over the period of time I have learnt to listen to whats going inside me without judging or any expectations. But once I hear something, I tell it out so that if it is something negative it doesn't fester inside me. If it is something positive... well all the more reason to voice it out and spread the happiness....

I thank the universe for making me talkative in nature. I know many who just keeps it within them. All I have got to tell them is... we friends are there not only to share the good times... Teasing & Laughing are not the only things we know to do... We also know to lend our shoulders & be good listeners.... Try it...

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Others eyes....

Sometimes the easiest way to appreciate ourselves is by looking through the eyes of someone who loves us.... One of my clients realizes he is lovable when he remembers how his grandfather used to delight in his boyish curiosity and inventiveness.
                      - Tara Brach in Radical Acceptance

Look in the mirror. Acknowledge what the people who love you see in you.

Grrr... This comes right after the two hour long pep talk on knowing what you are without any frills & handling personal comments.... a follow up talk rather...

Note to Self : I take things from 0 to -20. Work on keeping things between -5 & +5!!

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Too much thinking!

He : good morning.
Me : good morning
He : what's up ?
Me : nothing much... headache... dunno why
He : too much thinking, maybe .

And I fall off the chair laughing... My dear... there are many reasons as to why you are the enlightened one... This is one of them... The ability to see things without knowing anything....

Too much thinking... or brain transactions... or interactions... Sigh!! Some situations just gets the worst out of you at a very physical level... Am not even going to the emotional side!! Well... I am thankful to the universe that I didn't end up getting an IV drip!!!

Phew!!!

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How long is too long?

Me {all peppy}: I was a bit tipsy when I left the house. But the moment I stepped into this premise, one girl came running to me saying, "Akka! Akka! Good Morning Akka!", and I was me again.
She {more of a self realization than to me}: Its nice that you bounce back so easily. We Germans hold to our emotions for very very strongly. If we are angry, we remain angry for a very long time. If we are sad, we remain sad for long. We hang on to our emotions.

The timing for this statement couldn't be any better! I can say for sure... this nature is not specific to Germans. I can surely introduce you to a few Indians who just refuse to budge! The immovable rocks!!!!

And... I find myself offering a silent prayer for them.......

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To give.....

Make sex loving and exciting. Do not make love just for the sake of loving, but for the response of your lover. Remember: "The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife." (1 Corinthians 7:4).

The best person to vouch for this would be some one who was crushed because the male species did not get what he was supposed to get!!!!

PS.
Shared by a friend as she was flipping through the bible.

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Unpredictability of life

She {sparkly eyed} : Its a big leap.

Leap??? I would say Jumping off the cliff!!!
Some one made me walk to the edge of that cliff
Some one else made me take that peak...
Some one else comes in & nudges me...

And... There goes my balance!!

As I jump off that cliff... All I can remember is
Rejoice the unpredictability of life!!

At this point, I am not even worried whether I will hit that bed of rocks... The free fall is worth every bit........

Yippeeeeeee!!!

PS.
Thank you my mysterious one & my supportive one... Mmmmmmmuah!

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How "PS" saved my day

She {a bit irritated... I suppose with life}: Why did you not write/call me?????
Me {rather pleased to know that some one reads whatever I write}: Yea... thats exactly why I added the PS part!!!

She was referring to one of my recent posts. Hail Mogambo!!



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Step out of....

He : I think you should step out of you and see yourself. Then you will be able see yourself for what you really are. 

CIDs!! Eskaape!!







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Sweetness of Friendship

"In the sweetness of friendship let there be laughter, and sharing of pleasures. For in the dew of little things the heart finds its morning and is refreshed." 
                            - Kahlil Gibran in The Prophet 

Write or call a friend to let them know what you admire about them and what they mean to you. 

PS.
If I haven't written or spoken to you, please do not give unwanted interpretations & complicate things. But yes, I did think of you all while keying this here.

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Eliminate in Self

As read from a card....
"Often the most difficult part of forgiving another is facing the fact that we don't actually want to forgive them. Yet the process of forgiveness also requires that we experience, within ourselves, the fact that we are not so different from those we are so ready to judge." 
                               - Exra Bayda in Saying Yes to Life 

Bring to mind a person who has hurt or offended you. Ask yourself: What qualities does this person possess that I would like to eliminate in myself? 

Feeling stuck at "we don't want to forgive them"? Use Varada Mudra.

"Varada mudra is beneficial to feed the mind with the virtue of forgiveness, the generousness to forgive the world."

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Sorry....

"Develop the art of admitting your faults and proving your repentance by changing your ways. An honest "I'm Sorry" is soothing the first time and perhaps even the second and third time, but unless you put your money where your mouth is your confession will be sand in her craw."

Kiddo... this one is just for you & me... There were days when I would refuse to accept your "Sorry". Sorry is not something that you say because your parents instructed you to say at specific actions of yours. If you sit & look back, you would realize that I would have refused to accept your Sorry because.....
.. Well... I did not see whats mentioned here when you said Sorry... :D

When you understand how much it would have hurt some one...
When you empathize with the receiver...
When you repent what you have done....
When you make that resolve to change your ways to become that better you....
Then.... only then..... should you say that silent prayer....

Sorry...

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Some prescribed remedies

"Remedies for the miseries: First of all, accept you mate for who she is. This is why it's good to know your intended well before taking the final leap. Puppy love with short leash on courtship can lead to a dog's life. But whether you had a long or short engagement, the success of your marriage may hing upon the acceptance of your partner's total person. If you truly love your mate, you will continue to be blind to her many faults. Love can be delightfully blind, even after marriage....."

I am having a new found respect for ancient scriptures. A few days back, a friend of mine opened up to me with her marital woes. All I could do was be a listener. I was unable to put whatever I was feeling into words & explain things to her. I grew restless & I was discussing with another friend.... about how I was torn in this situation... about how I knew exactly what is required but I just am not able to explain it to the friend in need and help her out.....

The very next day... She sends me this... And I put this here for all of you... Make love delightfully blind... even after marriage... errr... I meant with your spouse & only with your spouse...

Note: Please read all the she & her as gender neutral ones. Obviously, we cannot go he/she & his/her in extensive write ups.

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Grey Areas?

He {more to himself than to address my concerns}: Beauty stops at a some place, then there is a grey space and then comes the vulgarity. There is a whole lot of men who just doesn't know when one space ends & the new one starts. Ironically, these variant spaces simply does not exist for many Malayalee men, it is all the same for them. The sad part is, this is prominent in men who have spent majority of their educational life in Kerala.

And I slept well that night. It is indeed a sad fact even for a man coming from similar community.

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Beauty vs ????

My 3hr conversation with my confidant brings me to this image....

What do you see here? Beauty or Boobs? Leave you option in the comments section... :-)

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The Bewakoofer

He {with the most amazing laugh}: I still do not know whether you did it on purpose. But you just walked right in & sat right between us!

Apparently, I threw a bucket full of ice cold water on all her efforts. They were having their privacy & she was working on it to take off. And... that was exactly when I walk in, unawares of what was going on, sit right in the middle of these two & start my nonsensical yapping.

His revelation was a "Kitni badi bewakoof thi mein" moment for me.

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Motivation vs Inspiration

He {long long ago}: You are not motivating the people around you.
She {last night}: You inspire all around you.

Now I am confused... What is the fundamental difference between motivation & inspiration? And more importantly, have I evolved to understand this?



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Reserve Time

"Reserve time for aloneness and allow neither children, in-laws, neighbours, church activities, pesky salesmen, or work brought home from office to interfere. Take occasional honeymoons, be they only for a night, just to get away"

A friend bumped into this while flipping through the bible & had shared this with me. The timing for this couldn't be more perfect. It was exactly when I was gearing up for my alone time/honeymoon/whatever name you call.

They are so right... one has to disconnect to connect.

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Breaking the... err whatever...

I am not sure whether I will ever find the 19yr old me but I thoroughly enjoyed trying to break out of my own constructs. 

Thank you my dear... for that nudge so that I could take that plunge. Yes... that Thank You does come with my chin-to-chest in gratitude.... :-) :-) :-) :-) 

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Revolver Rani

He : You could take up the name Revolver Rani.

And... I am still trying to figure out his thought process behind such a suggestion!!!
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Blast from Past

Kiddo... I have kept this in the box where we keep your art & craft things.