how to demonstrate affection

Some people just don't know how to show affection & care. Then there is another category that tries hard to show that they care & it all comes out in the wrong way. One of our friend falls under the second category. Even the most angelic among us is unable to bear the remarks made by this friend on her bestest days.

Recently, I had been to this friend's house with my child. While we were busy having lunch, this friend comes down & unclear about how to acknowledge that he has noticed my presence, makes the comment :
"L .... Its your stomach. Eat how much ever you want."

Kiddo unfamiliar with our friend & his nature, asks : "Amma, you will anyways eat how-much-ever you want. Then why is this uncle asking you eat how much ever you want?"

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